When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations — and that most of us don’t converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. “Go out, talk to people, listen to people,” she says. “And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed.”
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In conversation it IS necessary to show the other person that you are paying attention because the person won't know that you are paying attention and may get distracted or lose his/her train of thought if he/she is obsessing whether you are really paying attention or not.
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It’s paramount to actively listen and seek to understand when someone is talking to you. I agree with the speaker that most of us does not have intent to understand rather all we do is to reply in a conversation. We need to allow someone to reveal his or her emotions when having a conversation. Truly, the most beautiful thing to give to someone talking is to listen.
Many good points made here but…. Pundits are boring and predictable? Do you realize that you can't even have a conversation unless you have a conversation partner with an opposing viewpoint? Unless there is disagreement there is no conversation. Think about that. Analogous: a plane cannot take flight without some air resistance. It is just lame to say "Those immovable rocks are boring" we have to be proactive in being the irresistible force- that way the paradox is resolved and those immovable, boring "pundit" rocks get JERKED AROUND. As conversationalists we have to take the PROACTIVE stance that WE have to accept the burden of being interesting and have a worthy viewpoint to put forward as opposed to blaming others for how boring they are. You completely contradicted yourself! You say in the same breath that some people are predictable and boring then you say to enter every conversation with attitude of openness to try to learn something. Since you are interested in Stephen Covey- we have to Value The Differences, we can't say "We can learn something from EVERYONE, except pundits, because they are boring."
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I think the most important point is just to have conversations.
What about the civil war? The founding fathers fought like cats and dogs over the constitution
I am here because our professor told us to watch this and answer some questions
I like how she mentioned that she can still have a deep conversation with a person she dislikes. It reminds me of me during childhood and teens. 20's and onwards it just never worked.
She mentioned climate change and anti vaccine 5 years ago.😯
Interesting ideas for regular, daily conversation, but her presentation begs the question: "What is the difference between a regular conversation and a journalistic interview?" because it sounds like the political realm is excluded from her interviews as a journalist if they all respect her rules of how to have a conversation. And that would seem to diminish the responsibilities of journalism, making it completely apolitical.
She makes great points. But I was disappointed that every expert that she referenced was a man except for her sister and that reference was a rather base joke about women and mini skirts.
"Don't let them fool ya. Or even let them school ya". Bob Marley
Conversation is a balance between listening and talking. This is where the relevance of this presentation stopped, everything else is how you listen to people who haven’t seen this video indoctrinate you for an hour stretch so you leave the conversation angry, and dumped upon. In short this video lacks that balance and is unrealistic.
I bet she wasn’t prepared for the monkey wrench that is Trumpism. You ever try to have a conversation with one of them? 🙄
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Super, thank you so much!!!
Steps 7 & 9 are the most having to be applied to me deadass srsly'. 😁💯👌
‘Keep your mouth shut and your mind open’
This advices only works for extroverts or talkative people. Introverts and non-talkative people already doing all these naturally but it doesn't seem work very well. The thing is that you still need a drive to talk to people, without a drive to talk, you will never have a good conversation with anyone.
I just realized I'm really bad at taking to people… no wonder no one likes me
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Most people don't listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply. <3
I struggle with nr.6 🙁
….I wish I had 100 text a day 🙄
Bro I do everything she said, still no one talks to me ;_;
Unfortunately, the people who need to hear this will never watch the video.
The person answering the questions is controlled by the
person asking them. When a person is speaking in answer to a question, fully 100 percent of his focus and attention is on what he is saying; he cannot think of anything else. He is totally controlled by the questioner.
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I never clicked so fast on a video
im just wondering who was that guy who kept laughing so loudly about every little detail
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This just proves that people love to talk about themselves. If you listen, you will be liked
Me tying to regain my social-skills I lost in the pandemic 🙃
Feel like a robot trying to learn to be human
This is totally random
But is it just me or does she kinda sound like the mom from the incredibles lol
I just had to stop watch this video because of your prompted ideology. Climate and anti vaccine you said. She is chipped.
Thanks! As a humanoid robot trying to act and pretend like a human, this really helped me! Thank you!
Where can I view the pure study on this being the time we are most divided?
I cannot tell you how good this advice is, there have been many times where these tips have made conversations way better and just interacting with people in general
How about we just deal with and normalize disagreeing
Just amazing!
wow, this was 5 years ago… 2020 has nothing on this!
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I love thisss…my #1 love language is QUALITY time. So when I'm talking to someone and they seem distracted..look on their phone..or don't seem interested..or aren't good listeners..it makes me super sad. I love when people genuinely care about what your sharing
When I find people who are good at these skills I can feel this synergy throughout my body because it seems simple but it’s so rare. Any advice on how one would address those who constantly make your story about them or those who are awful listeners?
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